Somehow, I noticed that the psyche of these self proclaimed feminists (they might not like being called feminists, but I'll call this certain "class" of females, feminists for the want of a better word), is pretty similar. I mean all that they write about is...
1. How they are not taken seriously as compared to their male colleagues in their workplace?
2. Discrimination against women in any other social setup.
3. Sexual harassment, sexual abuse, rape, marital rape, molestation, etc.
4. Potrayal of women in media.
That might not be an exhaustive list, but you probably get the idea of what I'm talking about.
Most of these women are well educated and in control of their lives. Yet, to prove themselves they have to use male insecurity and discrimination as a yardstick for everything in their lives. They use the very things that they so vehemently oppose, in a patriarchic society, to measure their achievments.
I think, it's more like a tabloid. Tabloids sell on sleaze. The feminist talk sells on sleaze too.
Quoting from Wonderbug's Blog
Do you know what it feels like to be raped? Not the polite ‘sexual abuse’ term that a reader used. The real thing. The type when you lose half the hair on your head and all of your soul. The type when your vagina burns so hard you cannot sit for all of the next day. The type when bruises all over your body remind you of how lowdown wretched you are, and how being woman can be such a crime. The type when you scrub yourself over and over again in the bathroom trying to wipe out every shred of skin you have so that you don’t have to feel it ever again. The type that leaves you hating sex and hating yourself more. The type that makes every night an ordeal, and you shiver with trepidation every time dusk falls.
Sleaze, or not?
It's not sleaze, its the reality and reality can be graphic. Yes its not pretty, yes it boggles the mind and makes you want to vomit - but it's reality. And dude you said over on W-bug's blog that this was all something to garner attention and further her 'feminist' life. No - if you as a man had some problems which u faced every day in life, you would write and think and talk about it every day of your life. You can't just 'get over' a problem that u face every minute without solving it. What you are saying is, "Big deal, so u face discrimination everyday so what, every woman does, get over it". Would you be able to say that to another set of people like say Blacks in good conscience? You are able to say it to women because you are brought up in a society where it is accepted as normal.
ReplyDeleteAnd really man, how the fuck does it matter what u call it? Its all horrible. Also, your allegation that "they have to use male insecurity and discrimination as a yardstick for everything in their lives" is for the lack of a better term, bullshit. Like you said, if you cannot digest the harsh facts of life, maybe you should stick to wearing blinders and discussing pleasant stuff. Sorry if this was harsh but it's the truth.
ReplyDeleteKiddo
I really dont think describing stuff like that is going to help anyway. Well, if one is writing (or blogging) to vent his/her pent up emotions then it's a different deal altogether, but if this is just for the heck of it, just to show that one is "feminist" - it sucks! Big time.
ReplyDeleteAnd no, Kiddo, I'm not perverse to discussing the horrible things in life. But discussing just those, day in and day out (or post in and post out) - is kinda weird.
Like I said, if blogging is an escape mechanism, good for that person, at least he/she has an outlet... if not, I'd say - Get a Life.
Nandz.